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Finding ways to enjoy the hell out of life, while on our journey towards a healthy, authentic and passion-filled life.


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The fantasy of Tomorrow.

Tomorrow.

Oh tomorrow.
I love you and I hate you, I cannot decide which.
I love you when you allow me to put things off that are ‘difficult’ for me.
Things such as eating better, exercising more, being more thoughtful with my money, being more dedicated to whatever it is I’m working on/planning/dreaming of for the future.

I mean it’s so harmless. I’m not saying it will never happen. I’m not saying I don’t want it to happen.
I’m just saying I will start becoming the the person I want to be tomorrow.
Well sometimes, it’s not quite tomorrow. Sometimes it’s Monday, or the 1st of the next month, or the 1st of the coming up year. Or sometimes it’s some other arbitrary date or occasion. On my birthday. On our anniversary. After our vacation. When I lose the weight. When we have better jobs. When summer is over.

Suddenly, it isn’t so harmless anymore.
When I’m scarfing down like 1500+ calories for dinner because I am (re)starting my diet tomorrow.
When I’m ignoring the perfectly crafted budget that I had created, spending money that I ‘don’t have.’
When I realize that a particular goal I have isn’t any closer to fruition than it was, say, three years ago.

It isn’t that you mean me any harm tomorrow. I know that.
You just make big promises, and I believe you. I believe you every time.
But as soon as you arrive, you just leave me again. Alone.
Without any food in my refrigerator, when my stomach is growling.
Ten pounds heavier than I was before our agreement.
You leave me discouraged, ashamed and desiring more.
So I make another pact with you, tomorrow things will be better. We promise each other. We mean it this time.

And then you come and go, again.
It’s a vicious cycle, a toxic relationship, insanity really.
Tomorrow, you just aren’t stable enough for me. You are not dependable.
You and I cannot build my empire together. It is just not possible.
I’m sorry it had to end this way, and please don’t come around anymore.
I will always struggle with the love in my heart that I have for you. But you are just no good for me.

I need to get reaquainted with today. We will both be happier, I promise.
And maybe one day, in the future, you and I can be friends again as we actually get excited about what is to come tomorrow rather than wasting today in the belief that we will always have tomorrow to do better.

Peace out!

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Get Real: Minimalist

Minimalism.

I had sort of heard about minimalism before. It’s when people get rid of all their stuff! They have no attachment to objects. They can get by with only 5 shirts, 1 spatula and no make up.

Well, what I didn’t understand when I originally explored the subject is what minimalism was actually all about. It is not about getting rid of stuff and lacking the piles of crap most of us have. It is about LOVING everything you own, enjoying how your space looks, and having more energy, time and money for the things that really matter to you.

I think a lot of people talk about minimalist wardrobes. Perhaps because it’s something simple that we all have. And it makes for an easy way to explain things. I had been minimizing my wardrobe over the years, but only recently did I really finally get real with myself. That unworn bridesmaid dress that I have been moving delicately every time I move for years (which since I’m a young adult who apparently can’t stay put, is every year pretty much), that top that my mom bought me that is cute but never seems to be something I want to wear (again for years) to the point where actually looking at it makes me feel nothing but a little bit of guilt at the fact that I have never worn it, the few tops that I always try on when I am going out on the town but never actually wear because I remember that I don’t really like the way I look in them (this wasted my time in trying it on, as well as in cleaning all the clothes off my floor that I had tried on the next day).

Really? What the hell? Why have these items taking up space in my closet, taking up more room when I move, and making me feel uncomfortable when I accidentally throw on an item I don’t really even like all that much and leave the house. Seriously why have these items?

I was explaining why I tossed out another half of my wardrobe to my honey bunny, and I say ‘I only want to wear items that are my favorite!’ To which he quips back with, ‘well that’s not possible!’ ‘Well why not?’ I chirp back.

Blank stare.

I mean, really, why not?

Why can I not wear clothes that I seriously adore all the time. Maybe that means that in a 5 day work week, I wear the same pants, shirt or even whole outfit more than once! I would rather compromise in that way, then compromise by wearing something that I don’t love.

This helps with shopping as well, no more purchasing those items that don’t really captivate your heart. Oh you think it’s kinda cute and you would probably wear it every once in a while? Naw, wait for the items that you cannot bare to leave the store without purchasing as you know the item will be your favorite.

Less laundry. More closet space. Less clutter. More money in your wallet. And oh yeah, I get to wear items of clothing that I love (and get compliments on) every day. Not just sometimes. Everyday!

Just an idea ;).


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A new direction for ‘Get Real (fit and healthy)!’

So. Lots of life changes lately. It’s as that quote I’ve seen around lately states, ‘If you know me based on who I was even just a year ago, then we need to reacquaint ourselves. Because my growth game is strong!’

In order to make this blog something more sustainable for me, in other words to fit my original mission statement for the long haul as my own development keeps occurring, I want to merge my current two blogs and open this ‘new’ blog up even further to include more topics than my original ‘narrow’ focus.

This blog is still (and I promise will always be) about how to ‘enjoy the hell out of our life, while on our journey towards making it healthy, fit and passion-filled.’ However, now it is about so much more. I am adjusting this mission statement to be, ‘how to enjoy the hell out of our life, while on our everlasting journey towards making it healthy, authentic and passion-filled.’

To me, this is still about what we put into or onto our body and how we move our body (whether through food, hygiene products or even our environment such as household cleaners). And my other blog is still totally relevant as well, which is about dealing with chronic health conditions (or any chronic life ‘problems’) in a way that is really authentic to how we want to be living. But now, this ‘new’ blog will also be about some other life ideas I have been working on. Ideas such as having more conscious relationships (with self, friends, family and lovers), as well as minimalism, in as far as it relates to finding the real value in our belongings, relationships, habits and goals. Minimizing what we allow into our lives can help us cherish, respect and enjoy what we do have and actually make us feel more fulfilled with what seems to be much less (less stuff, less people, less on our proverbial plates). Looking into the future, something else I imagine delving into at some point is how all of what we do has an impact on both others lives (individuals, communities and maybe even societies) and the environment (our home).

I’ll be the first to say that at one time I could not have cared any less about my own body (and what I did to it, what I put into it, even who I gave it to – you know, sex -), nor did I care much about anyone elses well being or the planets. I still have a ton of things to work on, as a small example – I rarely ever recycle! I only mention this because, I want to make it clear here and now and forever that I am in no way perfect. I have way more growing to do. And when I grow more. There will still be more to do. Though aiming to reach your full potential is always great to do, it is also important to remember that you can never reach it. For when you reach it, you can see clearly that there is still way further to go! But when you are consistently (no matter how slowly) reaching further and living authentically, you can feel a stillness (some call this being present) that makes you feel completely at peace. No guilt, shame, anxiety, anger, grief, insecurity, hate, resentment or confusion exists here. No tummy upset, heartache, or difficulty breathing. Just peace.

And do I feel as absolutely at peace as I do in this very moment all the time? HAHAHAHHAA GET REAL!!! Of course I do not. No one, no preacher, self-help guru, yogi or anyone else that promotes the messages of growth, faith and love feels this way all the time. It is not about being perfect or feeling perfect inside. It is about how long it takes you to get back to this feeling of peace when you stray (whether you stray due to others behaviors, extenuating circumstances or your own choices/’mistakes’).

Progress (and honesty), not perfection. As you know better, do better. And most of all, through it all, just get and stay REAL!


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Re-Committing to our Health Journey

Re-Committing to your health journey (something I think we need to do every now and then, as so much changes in our lives, and our goals, etc.).

It’s easy to notice (well eventually anyway) when you are just completely sideways, off track, off the wagon, out of the club, however you want to think about it.

But what about when you have just been flirting a bit too much with the ‘other side?’ Maybe you have maintained a great deal of weight loss for a great deal of time, but can’t seem to push yourself any further. Maybe you eat extremely healthy much of the time, but still eat pizza, chips or other junk foods too often.

We, as a society, have finally come to terms with the fact that healthy eating (and moving your body) is not a diet. It is not a temporary way to live. It is a long term, lifestyle, habitual way to live.

So when there is no ‘diet’ to get back on. How do we re-commit? How do we live by a certain set of standards, without restricting ourselves so much as to make this something we cannot continue to commit to? I think the answer is pretty simple, like much of the answers we often seek, but that doesn’t mean it is easy. Simple and easy are definitely NOT synonyms.

Simple is eating whole clean foods at basically every meal, with a focus on vegetables and fruits. And it sounds easy too, but it’s not. Or is it? Now, I’m confused because it sounds so easy. But apparently it’s not.

We can hold on to things for as long or as short as we want. We can re-commit to living by our own values anytime we want. But because habits absolutely DO take work to unform or reform or get rid of, this isn’t exactly as easy as saying ‘I will not do XXX any longer.’ Well, the problem is our mind and body ARE going to want to do XXX because they are used to it now. When that desire comes up, you can either do the behavior … or deny that desire. One or the other has to happen, and our basic instinct will be to do the behavior (if that is what we are used to).

So what I commit to for the next three weeks, is to actively deny the desires that are against what the life I really want to have looks like. To allow the desires to come up (because they certainly will), realize what they are (which are little pulls to do things that I have, unfortunately, become used to), and to just deny the desire. And this doesn’t have to be an angry, negative, denial. It can be loving instead, ‘I understand I want to do this certain thing, and it’s ok that I want to, but it doesn’t mean that I have to, and in fact I’m not going to.’

Cheers to re-committing after I haven’t even blogged here in 8 months!! Yikes!!

Remember, we all have different constraints. Do the best you can with what you have and what you know, and if you do that you can only continue to grow.


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Serenity — and Desert!

My Blogs title is Clean (eating) and Serene. Serenity has been in/out the past several months. But I have finally realized that whatever Serenity is, in the big picture it is a choice. Each week, day, and moment. It is a choice.

Choosing to release anger and frustration the moment it hits you (and it will hit you, but it doesn’t have to knock you down). Choosing to understand what in your life that you do have control over (even big things, where you live, where you work, what you do on a daily basis), and what you do not (other people, the weather).

Even health (of course, always to an extent), is our choice. I can choose to drink shots, to eat Jack in the box, to never move a muscle. But I now know these truly are my choices. And when I slow my roll, and allow myself to make decisions (instead of letting that voice inside my head talk me into or out of it, or otherwise making me feel guilty), I can see what I truly want. And it is health, I think it always has been.

Anyway, these days, I am trying to be compassionate to myself. Allowing myself to make choices. Not beating myself up over them. Not being afraid of making them. Just making choices.

Also, I have been playing around with baked fruits!! So yummy and healthy. Reminds me of the ‘Champagne diet’? I’ve tried apples and pears so far, peaches with blueberries are next! These pears were sliced and topped with cinnamon, then baked, then topped with a Tuscan cinnamon cheese. The apple was peeled, covered in cinnamon, and simply microwaved (2 min 30 sec)!